I'm Poor

I just got my second paycheck. All my money is going towards:

-rent
-bills
-loans
-saving up

I'm allowed the occasional food fun spending, but other than that I can't really shop for fun stuff for myself which totally blows. I've gotten so used to not shopping for myself that I can't even remember what it feels like to spend so carelessly. When I go into stores, I don't even take that long to look at stuff because my first thoughts are "Why even bother? I know I can't afford it right now and I know I shouldn't even think about buying clothes when I can barely make rent." It's been pretty depressing when I go to the mall because I only go to buy stuff for other people and never for myself. Which is a good thing, but I really do miss having new clothes.

It also reeeeally sucks when I go out with my friends or something and I can't buy anything. So I have to watch them buy stuff and get all happy with their new loot, while I'm thinking "fuck my life". It's okay.. slowly I'll be able to save up and reward myself here and there. It just won't be for a while. Woe is me.

New Song Featuring My Husband, Justin Timberlake


When I was in L.A. last weekend, I'd hear this song every now and then.. and I thought okay whatever, UNTIL I HEARD JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE'S PART in the song!! Oh my god, I love his voice. It's like sex for my ears. The song is called "Dead and Gone".

It's actually T.I.'s song. The lyrics are okay, and the beat's alright. However, Justin's part ... *sigh* Here's a YouTube link for the song. It makes me just want to do nasty things even though the song so isn't about doing nasty things :D

Wine Down Wednesday

Ugh, another terrible, long, boring day. In fact, I ended the day with a headache. I couldn't even buy coffee because I had left my wallet at home. How sad. A new goal of mine is to bring my camera around and document things I find interesting that way my blog won't look so plain and lonely.

Today, I took some scenery pics around my work.Okay, so when I walk out this is what I see. La Jolla Cove is literally within 5 min walking distance from where I work. Today was a really nice day.

Here, is my favorite spot I used to sit under during my lunch breaks when I worked at Oakley. I'd walk out here for my 1 hour lunch break and just sit or lay out on that hard cement sitting thing under the shade. Yeah, I don't come out to spot anymore even though it's a lot closer to my current job. Maybe because it's cold. Or maybe because I'm lazy.

I found a site today called www.fmylife.com. People post their shitty life stories on there and most are pretty fucking hilarious, while others are just sad. For example: Today, I decided that I was bored while I was pooping and decided to paint my nails. I had to wait at least 30 minutes to wipe. FML (fuck my life) There are some really good ones on there so if you ever get bored in class or at work... go there hahaha.

Currently, I'm listening to Tiesto's mix of songs (trance) and drinking some of my very classy boxed wine. I was feeling frustrated/antsy before.. but now I'm starting to mellow out. The week's almost over and most importantly of all January is almost done. How's everyone's progress with their new year's resolutions? I'll update you on my progress in a future blog entry. But some things I'm thinking about right now which I'll address in the next entry:

1. If no good deed goes unpunished, and no bad deed ever gets rewarded, then what the fuck am I supposed to do?
2. When you're thinking of someone special, do you think they're doing the same with you?
3. Why am I so pretty?
4. Why can't I have what I want when I want it?

xoxo

UUUGH... VERY UPSET

I did not sleep well last night. First, I was still amped from coffee. Second, I didn't fall asleep right away. Third, I had another idiotic, stupid dream about the same stupid fear I've been having for weeks now. Now, I'm up way too fucking early and I can't/won't go jogging this morning because my head is POUNDING. This has been a horrible beginning to my lunar new year and to my week; I have a horrible dreadful feeling this week isn't going to get much better. Ugh, now that I think about it... yeah my week did start out pretty nasty with nothing but bad incidents starting on Sunday. I definitely need to do something to cheer myself up.

I think I will do at least one of these things to cheer up my attitude and morale:
-not smoke ANYTHING
-go buy room decorations/Valentine's shit even though I FUCKING HATE VALENTINE'S DAY FOR REMINDING ME I AM ALONE AND WITHOUT A MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP. FUCK ALL YOU HAPPY COUPLES. DIE. .... haha jk. sort of.
-get a haircut even if it's just a trim
-jog an extra lap
-ignore all the negative energy that surround certain people and just concentrate on myself because I don't need to care or be responsible for what other people want to do with their lives

What a shitty beginning to my week. If anyone fucks with me this week.... just don't, ok? No douchebag/cuntface comments or actions, please.

Exit Plan

I've always been someone who likes to plan ahead and have an exit plan/strategy just in case shit hits the fan and I don't want to be around to deal with it. This applies for everything: school, parents, girl drama, and relationships. My exit strategies always came in handy and I never had trouble coming up with one because I kind of always knew what to expect. But, after graduation and pretty much freefalling into this world called "responsibility"... I've been nothing but screwed without an exit plan. I keep "going with the flow" and dealing with things as they come. That has NOT served me well... I've been seriously depressed and hurt by this method. I'm trying to come up with backup plans but it's hard when I don't have much knowledge in this situation and how to handle it.

People used to give me shit about having a backup plan... well, you know what... they weren't in my shoes getting hurt or taken advantage of. I'm sorry I didn't have everything handed to me you fuckin prick.

A Blog About Random

I'm about 30 minutes away from ending my work day. I've consumed two cups of hot chocolate for the whole day. Tonight, I'm pretty damn sure I'll be spending my Friday night doing some cleaning for the Lunar New Year and then drinking some more BOXED WINE! FRANZIA! Holla. Yeah, I'm being serious. Today wasn't terrible but it wasn't great so to forget my woes I'm going to drink it up before sleeping.

This week's friendly shopping tip:

If you're into outdoor gear or like "bro" or Pacific Sunwear type of clothing/gear check out these sites for discounts. They're sold based on a time limit or whenever the item is completely sold out, and then they'll post the next item for sale.

www.whiskeymilitia.com
www.steepandcheap.com

Another Virginia Tech Tragedy


WHAT THE FUCK. This is so sad that it makes me angry. You can't just go around killing people because you feel like it. My heart really goes out to the victim and her friends and family. She had barely came to Virginia Tech from Beijing, and one of her first few "friends" fucking decapitates her. Like who the hell do you think you are to end someone's life like that?! Obviously not God or President Obama. I seriously would be a traumatized student at Virginia Tech and NEVER make friends with Chinese or Korean students especially the ones who can't speak English well. I know that sounds kind of racist... but ok. FUCK OFF. Okay fine, what I really meant to say is now I feel like I can't trust anyone especially if I was a student attending that school.

If you'd like to read up on the horrible tragedy click here.

Some of My Favorite Childhood Memories

In keeping with the kid theme I just started yesterday I am going to list some of my favorite if not amusing or memorable memories I had growing up. I don't quite remember how old I was but let's just say I was younger than 9 because I'm sure some of you may think that I did this shit like yesterday or something. It's likely, but no.

In no particular order although the first one still applies to this present day...

1. The sound of crickets on summer nights when outdoors (note that I said "outdoors" because crickets indoors annoys the shit out of me).. to this day if I hear crickets at night when I'm outside it'll instantly take me back to when i was under 5 feet tall and wishing summer would never end.
2. Roasting marshmallows on a chopstick over a gas stove with my dad & sister.
3. Getting into a 4 ft tall plant pot filled with water in my bathing suit with my sister and splashing water at each other because we didn't have a pool. I think I was 7 at the time.
4. Picking up a lizard by its tail, having the lizard detach its tail and run away, and realizing the tail was still moving in my fingers for the first time. I screamed my head off, ran into the house and stared at the moving tail from behind a glass door. Keep in mind... it took me NERVES OF STEEL to even have the guts to pick up the lizard.
5. My aunt telling me that I was adopted. Actually, that my parents found me in a dumpster crying as an infant, and took pity on me.
6. After eating chocolate for the first time, I went to the toilet and lifted the lid. I started spitting into the toilet just to do it not because I didn't like chocolate. My spit had chocolate residue mixed in so when I'd spit into the toilet the chocolate residue spit would swirl a bit in the water. At the time I thought it looked like hair so I thought I was spitting out hair and I FREAKED OUT. I just kept spitting into the toilet hoping to get all the "hair" out of my mouth and throat. I believe I was 4 or 5 years old here.
7. In kindergarten at my first school was the first time I was exposed to "American food" like pizza and everything else. At home I was only fed Vietnamese cuisine and the occasional McDonalds. They served lunch to us in the morning before class (I don't know why..) but they wouldn't let you leave until you finished your meal. Seeing as how I had never touched the American food they served me, I never ate anything. So all the yard teachers would just keep an eye out for me as I sat miserably at the table BY MYSELF staring at the food until they finally let me go. I was late EVERYDAY to class. So one time they served pizza, which was gross and foreign to me, so I came up with the idea to stick the slice under my table making it look like I had eaten it. I called over the yard teacher and proclaimed proudly "all done!" and he glanced under the table to see a slice of pizza on the floor next to my feet and asked.. "what's that?" At 5 years old I hated my life.

Hm.. that's all for now. I will definitely have more entries with childhood memories in the future. Thanks for reading and I hope this at least made someone smile.

What I Wanted as a Kid

It's been a good 10 years since I've thought about what I really wanted growing up. Somewhere in between studying for school, losing my virginity, and smoking weed, I forgot about the goals I made for myself. Now that I'm 22 and approaching 23 in less than 5 months.. it's time to remember what I need to work towards. Hopefully my childhood dreams can still be applied to the present.

1. Getting a fireplace so I can roast marshmallows and help Santa break into my place easier.
2. Owning a kaleidoscope. I always wanted one as a kid, but my parents got me a book on Vietnamese verbs instead.
3. A business venture into the restaurant or jewelry industry. Wtf was I thinking? I'll pass on this one.
4. Playing the guitar or ukelele while sitting on my hammock and eating spam musubi.
5. Collecting enough UPC codes from cereal boxes so I can send them in exchange for a really cool spoon that changes colors in milk. You guys know what I'm talking about....
5. Defying all scientific logic and learning how to fly without the aid of planes /jets / hangliders/ God
6. Own a golden retriever named Shadow, a Himalayan cat named Sassy, and an American bulldog named Chance (It's a "homeward bound" the movie reference)

Yeah, that's all I got so far.. I'm sure I have many more life goals.. but for now this will do. I think I can get at least half of the list accomplished by 23.

Soo... do you just want to be FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS?

UM. OK. EW. I've been asked this question about .... 4 times now in the last 2 months of my life.

First off, NO I DON'T WANT TO BE YOUR FUCK BUDDY.

Second, what in God's name made you think I would be interested in doing that, let alone with you? Just because I smile or I'm nice to you...heck, I might even give you a hug. That doesn't mean I want your penis anywhere near me.

Third, WHAT THE FUCK WERE YOU THINKING ASKING ME THAT?! What girl wants to be approached with that question after a first date, especially after she's never called/texted you back?? There is never an appropriate time to toss that question around. Never.. UNLESS, she initiates it. In which case... I DIDN'T.

Well then. Now that I've stated my case... I just want to give some advice to any single guys feeling lonely at night: If you want some action, try a bit of effort. Only in the Land of Make Believe or as I like to refer to it, The World Where Stupid Actions Get Rewarded, does simply asking the question "Do you want to be fuck buddies?" ever get you ass.

Tips for My Male Readers

I wasn't really aware of this.. but I have guys who read my blog! lol

So, I'm going to start adding more entries that can possibly help out guys as well. Today, the topic is about "Chivalry"

Opening Doors
Guys, I know it's not the 1800s, but for some of you, would it kill you to open the door for us? We're not lazy or weak so we can open our own doors, but it's the thought that counts! Car doors are a nice gesture but you don't have to do it, however, when going into a restaurant or store that doesn't have automatic sliding doors.. please hold it open for us once in a while.

Paying the Check
OK.. this is a bit of a grey area and I understand that. I HIGHLY recommend on a first date, whether the girl or you initiated the date, that the guy at least OFFER to pay for the whole check. You don't have to be completely insistent on it, but you should at least offer. This only applies at like restaurant settings, so getting coffee or something that casual.. you can go dutch. Now ladies, NEVER EVER expect the guy to pay for the whole bill, especially everytime you guys go out. Why? Well, because there are going to be times when the guy never offers to pay except for his portion, and also you come off looking like a greedy bitch.

In general, I think girls like chivalry not because we're anti-feminists or because we can't do anything on our own. No. We adore it when guys exhibit chivalry because it shows he's being thoughtful of us, and not treating us like we're some homeless person he's never met. So you guys don't always have to jump to open doors, or go broke trying to impress us... but a nice gesture here and there goes a LONG way.. especially in bed :)

New Music Tuesday!

Yesterday, I had a lovely day of just bumming around in my room. Bumming around leads to finding new music. I usually find new songs to listen to by asking friends what their favorite songs are, browsing YouTube/Myspace, and of course, the good ol' radio. These songs might not be the newest.. but I highly recommend them!

Country
Dierks Bentley- Long Trip Alone
Brad Paisley- It Did
Brad Paisley- Little Moments
George Strait- Write This Down

Rock
Far- Pony
Disturbed- Indestructible.. the song Stricken

Pop
Anything by Britney Spears.. well I recommend
Britney Spears- Amnesia, Mannequinn, Piece of Me (tiesto remix)

Obama's Inauguration 2009

Okay... I totally slept through it. I know, I completely fail as an informed American Democratic citizen. I feel bad for missing out on something so historic, but you know, politics are kind of the last thing on my mind right now. Obama, I love him and I think he will be some form of change for our country if not literally a change from the conventional president we are used to seeing, but he's not going to get me a job that pays well right now. He's not going to help me find love or even the meaning of life. So, why should I have to wake up so fucking goddamn early to watch something I can probably YouTube or find on CNN.com later? If anyone tells me that I'm ignorant, crazy, or apathetic for missing out on these historic political moments of American history.... I'm going to tell them to take their fucking pretentious thoughts and go fuck themselves. Where's my stimulus check, bitch?!

Go Obama =]

US Airways Plane Crash in Hudson River

*image courtesy of NYTimes.com

So that happened on Thursday Jan. 15. Fucking intense. Luckily all 155 passengers made it out and some were only treated to prevent any illness from the freezing temperature of the east coast and waters. They're saying the plane went down because a flock of geese/gulls fucked with the plane. Fanfuckintastic. It's great knowing that a bunch of birds can bring down a large commercial jet. I haven't flown on a plane in over a year now, and to be honest, I don't want to get on a plane anytime soon. I used to fly like 3-5 times a year, but with rising costs in airfare, luggage fees, and just the usual flight shit like delays and whatnot.. I just have no desire to fly anywhere.

Jewel's New Song "Raven"

Add Image*image from jeweljk.com

Jewel has a new album coming out of lullaby songs that can be enjoyed both by children and adults. Her music is kinda folkish, country, Sarah McLachlanish... but it's pretty soothing. Makes me wanna sit on my porch swing barefoot while sipping on a cool glass of sweet tea haha. She's so pretty! I can't wait for her album to come out. If you want to hear her new song "Raven", it can be found on perezhilton.com (LOVE that site by the way) or click here .

Weekend Review 1/10-1/11

Saturday Jan . 10: After getting off work, went to dinner at Chart House Restaurant in Cardiff by the Sea, which is known for their great selection of seafood & steak. The restaurant was pretty packed around 7:30pm on a Saturday night, which meant about a 30 minute wait but it was cool because the bar was near the waiting area haha. Although I don't have pictures to showcase the food, I will recommend the Garlic Panko Crusted Sea Bass if you're into seafood. Incredibly delicious, and the portions were just enough to satiate you. It was grilled Chilean Sea Bass which is described to have a "buttery, white, flakey texture" on a bed of creamed spinach and tomato basil on top. The dish was neither mushy nor fishy. Wonderfully seasoned! Alright, and now for the best part... Hot Chocolate Lava Cake... Godiva Chocolate Liqueur, molten center, Dreyer’s® vanilla ice cream, served with warm chocolate sauce and Heath Bar Crunch. HOLY **** it was sooo goddamn good.

I would definitely come back there. It is a great fine dining experience, and there's a lovely view of the ocean if you're lucky enough to be seated by the windows.

Afterwards, I saw "The Unborn"..., SHITTY MOVIE. DON'T WATCH IT. It's not even scary and that was the disappointing part. Everything was predictable.

Oh, and before I forget.. for lunch I ate at The Spot La Jolla. Their burgers are awesome because you get to build your own with the various toppings, sauces, and meat/veggie options they offer. Also, a great place to go to watch the game if you're in La Jolla and want a pub feeling.

Sunday Jan. 11: Watched the Chargers game at Seau's The Restaurant. Super packed with drunken Chargers fans haha. But great place to just have fun, get drunk, and watch the football game. However, WHAT A FUCKIN DISAPPOINTMENT! But it was a great season for the Chargers in the fact that they got so far. Love 'em.

Sorry for the lack of photos!

Thinking of You

That's the name of Katy Perry's new single. Here's a link to the song on youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfvE0JNXxYg it's a pretty good video.. kind of a sad song.

Anyways, for these past few weeks or days.. whatever, I've been trying to occupy myself by going out, checking out new places, trying to meet new people, and just upholding the image of "party girl" that most people for some reason associate me with. But this morning I woke up feeling pretty goddamn empty inside. I mean, there was no real good reason as to why I should. I've been surrounded by good things lately. I have my best friends who I go to for everything, I have a new job I really like, and things are really *hopefully* starting to look up for me.

Even with all of those things, I couldn't help but feel lonely this morning. This whole "single life" thing is starting to wear on me. I'm waiting, and I'm going to continue to wait because I know he will be worth it. I guess what they say is true.. having everything doesn't mean anything unless you have someone to share it with.

P.S. I don't have "everything".. but you guys know what I mean.

Recap on My First Official 2009 Week

Saturday Jan. 3: CHARGERS WON! FUCKIN ELATED.

Sunday Jan. 4: Bleh.. a chill whatever day.

Monday Jan. 5: hit up Pacific Beach for some light window shopping. Checked out Chronic and Guru Tattoo shops. I'm definitely going to hit up other tat shops in PB before I make a decision about where and who I want to get my first tattoo with.

Tuesday Jan. 6: First day of work at Tasende Gallery! It was a good first day haha. I'm stoked to be working here.

Wednesday Jan. 7: Bleh.

Thursday Jan. 8: Had a great night just relaxing.

Friday Jan. 9: Tasende Gallery 30th Anniversary Exhibit Opening.. pretty cool. Got 3 glasses of champagne out of it so I had a good time haha.

So far so good 2009.